Till Death Do Us Part... Or Not: Financial Planning for Unmarried Couples

July 26, 2024

Jennifer and David had been together for eight years. They owned a house, shared a dog, and were talking about starting a family. To all their friends and family, they were as good as married. But legally? They were just two individuals sharing a life.


One day, David was in a severe car accident. As he lay unconscious in the hospital, Jennifer was shocked to discover she had no legal right to make medical decisions for him. Their shared house? It was in David’s name only. Many of their utilities and credit cards were also in David’s name, so the companies wouldn't speak with Jennifer when she called them about their bills.


These are just a few examples of the unique challenges unmarried couples face. While love may not need a marriage certificate, your finances might appreciate one. You're not alone if you're in a committed relationship without plans to tie the knot. According to the Pew Research Center, the number of U.S. adults in cohabiting relationships has steadily increased in recent years. 


Without the automatic legal benefits that come with marriage, unmarried couples need to be proactive in protecting their financial interests and ensuring their future together is secure.


The "What If" Conversation: Preparing for the Unexpected


It's not the most romantic topic, but it's crucial. Sit down with your partner and discuss what would happen if one of you became incapacitated or passed away. Who would make medical decisions? Who would inherit your assets? Without legal protections, your partner could be left out in the cold.


Being prepared for the unexpected starts with: 

  • Creating a durable power of attorney for healthcare decisions. 
  • Drafting a living will outlining your end-of-life care preferences. 
  • Determining a regular power of attorney for financial decisions. 
  • Signing HIPAA authorization forms to allow the release of medical information to your partner.


Joint Finances: Financial Planning for Unmarried Couples


Navigating financial life as an unmarried couple presents unique challenges and opportunities. From buying a home together to planning for retirement, every decision requires careful consideration and clear communication. 


Below are some tips on how to protect your assets, increase your communication, manage your estate, plan for retirement, and understand the implications of taxes and insurance. 


Protect Your Home Sweet Home


If you're buying a home together, think carefully about how you'll hold the title. Options include:

  • Tenants in Common: You each own a specific percentage of the property. If one partner dies, their share goes to their estate, not automatically to the other partner.
  • Joint Tenants with Right of Survivorship: You both own the entire property. If one partner dies, the other automatically inherits their share.


Consider a cohabitation agreement that outlines how you'll handle the property if you split up. It's like a prenup but for unmarried couples.


Have the Money Talk


How will you handle your finances? Some couples keep everything separate, while others combine everything. Many find a middle ground works best. You might consider:

  • A joint account for shared expenses, with individual accounts for personal spending. 
  • A detailed budget outlining who pays for what. 
  • Regular "money dates" to discuss your financial goals and progress. 


Remember, without the legal protections of marriage, it's crucial to keep clear records of who contributes what to shared assets.


Plan for Retirement 


Unmarried couples miss out on some of the retirement perks that come with marriage. For example, you cannot claim Social Security benefits based on your partner's work record. But there are still ways to plan for a comfortable retirement together:

  • Max out your individual retirement accounts.
  • If one partner earns significantly more, consider gifting money to the other to invest (up to the annual gift tax exclusion limit).
  • Look into domestic partner benefits offered by your employers.


Review Insurance Matters


Review your insurance policies to make sure your partner is protected:

  • Health insurance: Explore options for domestic partner health insurance coverage, which some employers offer.
  • Life insurance: Name your partner as the beneficiary to provide financial protection if something happens to you.
  • Disability insurance: This can replace a portion of your income if you're unable to work due to illness or injury.


Plan Your Estate


You might think estate planning is just for the wealthy, but it's crucial for unmarried couples. Without a will, your assets will be distributed according to state law, which often favors blood relatives over unmarried partners.

Consider creating:

  • A will that clearly outlines your wishes.
  • A living trust to avoid probate and provide more control over asset distribution.
  • Beneficiary designations on retirement accounts and life insurance policies.


Explore Tax Implications


When it comes to taxes, unmarried couples face a different landscape than their married counterparts. While you might miss out on some benefits, there can also be advantages. Let's break it down:

  • Filing Status: As an unmarried couple, you'll each file as single or, if you have dependents, possibly as head of household. This means you can't take advantage of the married filing jointly status, which often results in a lower tax bill.
  • Income Thresholds: On the flip side, staying single for tax purposes can be beneficial if you both have high incomes. Married couples sometimes face a "marriage penalty" where their combined income pushes them into a higher tax bracket.
  • Deductions and Credits: You cannot both claim the same child as a dependent, but you might alternate years if you're co-parenting. Only one can claim mortgage interest and property tax deductions if you own a home together. Education credits, like the American Opportunity Credit, can only be claimed by one person for each student.
  • Gift Tax Considerations: Unmarried couples must be aware of the annual gift tax exclusion (currently $18,000 in 2024) when transferring money between partners. Exceeding this amount could require filing a gift tax return.
  • Health Insurance: If one partner covers the other on their employer-provided health insurance, the value of that coverage is often taxable income for the covered partner. Married couples don't face this issue.
  • Selling a Home: If you sell your primary residence, each unmarried partner can exclude up to $250,000 of gain, potentially allowing for a $500,000 exclusion — the same as a married couple.
  • Retirement Account Contributions: You can't contribute to an IRA for your partner like married couples can. However, this also means you're not limited by a non-working spouse's income regarding Roth IRA contributions.
  • Estate Taxes: Unmarried partners can't take advantage of the unlimited marital deduction for estate taxes. However, with proper planning, you can still transfer significant assets to your partner tax-free.
  • State Taxes: Remember to consider state taxes, which can vary significantly. Some states recognize domestic partnerships or civil unions, which might affect your state tax situation.


Remember, tax laws are complex and change frequently. Working with a qualified tax professional who can help you find the most advantageous approach for your situation is crucial. They can help you identify opportunities to minimize your tax burden while ensuring you're fully compliant with all relevant laws.


At Five Pine Wealth Management, we work to ensure our clients' financial plans are tax-efficient. We can help you understand the tax implications of your financial decisions and develop strategies to optimize your tax situation as an unmarried couple.


Protect Your Business


Written agreements are crucial if you and your partner run a business together. Consider creating:

  • A partnership agreement outlining roles, responsibilities, and profit-sharing. 
  • Buy-sell agreements in case one partner wants to leave the business. 
  • Succession plans for what happens to the business if one partner dies or becomes incapacitated. 


Take the Next Step Together With Five Pine Wealth Management


Remember Jennifer and David from our opening story? After David’s accident, they realized how unprepared they were. They worked with a financial advisor to create a comprehensive plan that protected them both. Now, they know that they're financially prepared no matter what life throws their way.


Financial planning requires careful consideration and proactive steps for unmarried couples. You can build a secure and prosperous future together by addressing the unique challenges and leveraging the opportunities.


If you and your partner are navigating financial planning without the legal framework of marriage, we’re here to help. At Five Pine Wealth Management, we specialize in helping couples — married or not — build strong financial foundations for their future together. We understand that every relationship is unique, and we're here to help you create a plan that works for you.


Ready to take the next step in securing your financial future together? We'd love to chat. Visit us at Five Pine Wealth Management, call 877.333.1015, or email us at info@fivepinewealth.com.


Remember, love may not need a piece of paper, but your finances might appreciate some documentation. Let's work together to ensure your partnership is emotionally and financially protected.


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You've Maxed Your 401(k). Now What? A Strategic Guide for High Earners

January 26, 2026
Key Takeaways High earners maxing out 401(k)s at $24,500 are only saving about 8% of a $300,000 income in their primary retirement account. The mega backdoor Roth strategy can increase total 401(k) contributions to $72,000 annually with tax-free growth. A comprehensive approach can create nearly $3 million in additional retirement wealth over 20 years. It's 2026. You're checking all the boxes. You're earning upwards of $300,000 annually, and you're maxing out your 401(k) every year. You've reached the $24,500 contribution limit and feel confident about securing your financial future. Then you realize $24,500 represents less than 8% of your income. Over 20 years, this gap adds up to millions in lost opportunity. Thankfully, you're not stuck with the basic 401(k) playbook. There are sophisticated strategies beyond your contribution limit. 5 Strategic Moves for High Earners with Maxed-Out 401(k)s Here are five sophisticated strategies that can help you build wealth beyond your basic 401(k) contributions. All projections assume a 7% average annual return and are estimates for illustrative purposes. 1. Mega Backdoor Roth Contributions If your employer's 401(k) plan allows after-tax contributions, this could be your biggest opportunity. With employee contributions, employer match, and after-tax contributions, the combined 401(k) limit for 2026 is $72,000 ($80,000 if you're 50 or older). The mega backdoor Roth works because you immediately convert those after-tax contributions into a Roth account, where they grow tax-free forever. The catch: Not all employers offer this option. You need a plan that permits after-tax contributions and in-service Roth conversions. The impact: The available space for after-tax contributions depends on your employer match. With a typical employer match of 3-6% (roughly $10,000-$21,000 on a $350,000 salary), you could contribute approximately $26,500-$37,000 annually. At 7% average returns over 20 years, this creates approximately $1.1-$1.5 million in additional tax-free retirement savings. 2. Donor-Advised Funds for Charitable Giving If you're charitably inclined, donor-advised funds (DAFs) offer a way to bunch several years of charitable contributions into one tax year, maximizing your itemized deductions while still spreading your giving over time. You get an immediate tax deduction for the full contribution, but you can recommend grants to charities over many years. The funds grow tax-free in the meantime. The catch: Once you contribute to a DAF, the money is irrevocably committed to charity. You can't get it back for personal use. The impact: Contributing $50,000 to a DAF in a high-income year (versus giving $10,000 annually) can create immediate federal tax savings of $15,000-$18,500 while still allowing you to support the same charities over five years. 3. Taxable Brokerage Accounts with Tax-Loss Harvesting Once you've maximized tax-advantaged accounts, strategic taxable investing becomes your next move. The key is working with a financial advisor who implements systematic tax-loss harvesting throughout the year. Tax-loss harvesting involves selling investments at a loss to offset capital gains elsewhere. Done strategically, this can save thousands in taxes annually. The catch: Long-term capital gain rates (0%, 15%, or 20%) are lower than ordinary income tax rates, but you're still paying taxes on gains. It's less tax-efficient than retirement accounts, but far better than ignoring tax optimization. The impact: For high earners in the 35-37% ordinary income brackets, the difference between long-term capital gains (20%) and ordinary rates is significant. Effective tax-loss harvesting on $50,000 in annual gains over 20 years could save $150,000+ in taxes. 4. Health Savings Account (HSA) Triple Tax Advantage HSAs offer a unique triple tax benefit: tax-deductible contributions, tax-free growth, and tax-free withdrawals for qualified medical expenses. With 2026 contribution limits of $4,400 for individuals and $8,750 for families, this adds another powerful layer to your strategy. You can invest HSA funds just like an IRA and let them grow for decades. After age 65, you can withdraw the funds for any purpose, medical or otherwise. The catch: You must have a high-deductible health plan to qualify for an HSA. After age 65, non-medical withdrawals are taxed as ordinary income (like traditional IRA distributions), but you still benefit from the upfront deduction and decades of tax-free growth. The impact: Contributing the family maximum ($8,750) annually for 20 years at a 7% average annual return creates approximately $355,000-$360,000 in tax-advantaged savings. 5. Backdoor Roth IRA Contributions Not to be confused with mega backdoor Roth contributions! Even if your income exceeds the Roth IRA contribution limits, you can still fund a Roth through the backdoor method: make a non-deductible contribution to a traditional IRA, then immediately convert it to a Roth IRA. The catch: If you have existing traditional IRA balances, the pro-rata rule complicates things. You may want to consider rolling those funds into your 401(k) first if your plan allows. The impact: Contributing $7,000 annually through the backdoor Roth for 20 years at 7% average annual return creates approximately $285,000-$290,000 in tax-free retirement savings. What Compounding These Strategies Looks Like Over 20 Years Let’s look at approximate outcomes based on a 7% average annual return. 401(k) Only: Annual contribution: $24,500 Total after 20 years: ~$1M 401(k) + Mega Backdoor Roth: Annual contribution: $72,000 Total after 20 years: ~$3M Note: Mega backdoor Roth space varies based on your employer's match. These calculations assume you're maximizing the total annual limit. Comprehensive Approach (under age 50): Mega Backdoor Roth: ~$3.0M HSA: ~$350K-$360K Backdoor Roth IRA: ~$285K-$290K Strategic taxable investing with tax-loss harvesting Total retirement savings: ~$3.6M+, plus taxable investments Comprehensive Approach (ages 50-59): With higher contribution limits and catch-up contributions, total retirement savings can reach ~$4M+ over 20 years. Comprehensive Approach (ages 60–63 with enhanced catch-up contributions) Higher contribution limits during peak earning years allow for meaningful acceleration of retirement savings. The exact impact depends on timing, contribution duration, and existing balances. The Bottom Line The difference between stopping at your basic 401(k) and implementing a comprehensive strategy can approach $3 million or more in additional retirement wealth over time. Why Strategic Coordination Matters These aren't either/or decisions. The most effective approach coordinates multiple strategies while ensuring everything works together. At Five Pine Wealth Management , we help high-earning clients build comprehensive plans that go beyond the 401(k). We coordinate your employer benefits, tax strategies, and investment accounts to create a cohesive approach that maximizes your wealth-building potential. This requires working across several areas: Analyzing your employer's 401(k) plan for mega backdoor Roth opportunities Implementing systematic tax-loss harvesting in taxable accounts Coordinating Roth conversions and backdoor contributions Optimizing your HSA as a long-term retirement vehicle Ensuring charitable giving strategies align with your tax situation Maximizing catch-up contributions when you reach milestone ages As fiduciary advisors, we're legally obligated to act in your best interest. That means we're focused on strategies that serve your goals, not products that generate commissions. Ready to see what's possible beyond your 401(k)? Email us at info@fivepinewealth.com or call 877.333.1015 to schedule a conversation about your specific situation. Frequently Asked Questions (FAQs) Q: Does my employer's 401(k) plan automatically allow mega backdoor Roth contributions? A: No. You need a plan that permits after-tax contributions and in-service conversions to Roth. Check with your HR department. Q: How do I prioritize which investment strategies to use? A: Generally, maximize employer match first (it's free money), then fully fund your 401(k), explore Mega Backdoor Roth if available, max out your HSA, consider backdoor Roth IRA contributions, and then move to taxable accounts with tax-loss harvesting. We can help determine the right sequence for your circumstances.

What's the Best Asset Allocation for Someone 10 Years Away from Retirement?

December 22, 2025
Key Takeaways Your guaranteed income sources (pensions, Social Security) matter more than your age when deciding allocation. Retiring at 65 doesn't mean your timeline ends. You likely have 20-30 years of investing ahead. Think in time buckets: near-term stability, mid-term balance, long-term growth. You're 55 years old with over a million dollars saved for retirement. Your 401(k) statements arrive each month, and you find yourself questioning whether your current allocation still makes sense. Should you be moving everything to bonds? Keeping it all in stocks? Something in between? There's no single "correct" asset allocation for everyone in this position. What works for you depends on factors unique to your situation: your retirement income sources, spending needs, and risk tolerance. Let's look at what matters most as you approach this major life transition. Why Asset Allocation Changes as Retirement Approaches When you’re 30 or 40, your investment timeline stretches decades into the future. When you’re 55 and looking to retire at 65, that equation changes because you’re no longer just building wealth: you’re preparing to start spending it. You need enough growth to keep pace with inflation and fund decades of retirement, but you also need stability to avoid the need to sell investments during market downturns. At this point, asset allocation 10 years before retirement is more nuanced than a simple “more conservative” approach. Understanding Your Actual Time Horizon Hitting retirement age doesn't make your investment timeline shrink to zero. If you retire at 65 and live to 90, that's a 25-year investment horizon. Think about your money in buckets based on when you'll need it: Time Horizon Investment Approach Example Needs Short-Term (Years 1-5 of Retirement) Stable & accessible funds Monthly living expenses, healthcare costs, and early travel plans Medium-Term (Years 6-15) Moderate risk; balanced growth Home repairs, care and income replacement, and helping grandchildren with college Long-Term (Years 16+) Growth-oriented with a Long-term care expenses, decades-long timeline legacy planning, and extended longevity needs This bucket approach helps you think beyond simple stock-versus-bond percentages. Asset Allocation 10 Years Before Retirement: Starting Points While there's no one-size-fits-all answer, here are some reasonable starting frameworks: Conservative Approach (60% stocks / 40% bonds) : Makes sense if you have minimal guaranteed income or plan to begin drawing heavily from your portfolio upon retirement. Moderate Approach (70% stocks / 30% bonds) : Works well for those with some guaranteed income sources, moderate risk tolerance, and a flexible withdrawal strategy. Growth-Oriented Approach (80% stocks / 20% bonds) : Can be appropriate if you have substantial guaranteed income covering basic expenses and the flexibility to reduce spending temporarily as needed. Remember, these are starting points for discussion, not recommendations. 3 Steps to Evaluate Your Current Allocation Ready to see if your current allocation still makes sense? Here's how to start: Step 1: Calculate your current stock/bond split. Pull your recent statements and add up everything in stocks (including mutual funds and ETFs) versus bonds. Divide each by your total portfolio to get percentages. Step 2: List your guaranteed retirement income. Write down income sources that aren't portfolio-dependent: Social Security (estimate at ssa.gov), pensions, annuities, rental income, or planned part-time work. Total the monthly amount. Step 3: Calculate your coverage gap. Estimate monthly retirement expenses, then subtract your guaranteed income. If guaranteed income covers 70-80%+ of expenses, you can be more growth-oriented. Under 50% coverage means you'll need a more balanced approach. When to Adjust Your Allocation Here are specific triggers that signal it's time to review and potentially adjust: Your allocation has drifted more than 5% from target. If you started at 70/30 stocks to bonds and market movements have pushed you to 77/23, it's time to rebalance back to your target. Your retirement timeline changes significantly. Planning to retire at 60 instead of 65? That's a trigger. Every two years of timeline shift warrants a fresh look at your allocation. Major health changes occur. A serious diagnosis that changes your life expectancy or healthcare costs should prompt an allocation review. You gain or lose a guaranteed income source. Inheriting a pension through remarriage, losing expected Social Security benefits through divorce, or discovering your pension is underfunded. Market volatility affects your sleep. If you're checking your portfolio daily and feeling genuine anxiety about normal market movements, your allocation might be too aggressive for your comfort, and that's a valid reason to adjust. Beyond Stocks and Bonds Modern retirement planning involves more than just deciding your stock-to-bond ratio. Consider international diversification (20-30% of your stock allocation), real estate exposure through REITs, cash reserves covering 1-2 years of spending, and income-producing investments such as dividend-paying stocks. The Biggest Mistake: Becoming Too Conservative Too Soon Moving everything to bonds at 55 might feel safer, but it creates two significant problems. First, you're almost guaranteeing that inflation will outpace your returns over a 30-year retirement. Second, you're missing a decade of potential growth during your peak earning and saving years. The difference between 60% and 80% stock allocation over 10 years can mean hundreds of thousands of dollars in portfolio value. Being too conservative can be just as risky as being too aggressive, just in different ways. Questions to Ask Yourself As you think about your asset allocation for the next 10 years: What percentage of my retirement spending will be covered by Social Security, pensions, or other guaranteed income? How flexible is my retirement budget? Could I reduce spending by 10-20% during a market downturn? What's my emotional reaction to seeing my portfolio drop 20% or more? Do I plan to leave money to heirs, or is my goal to spend most of it during retirement? Your honest answers to these questions matter more than your age or any generic allocation rule. Work With Professionals Who Understand Your Complete Picture At Five Pine Wealth Management, we help clients work through these decisions by looking at their complete financial picture. We stress-test different allocation strategies against various market scenarios, coordinate withdrawal strategies with tax planning, and help clients understand the trade-offs between different approaches. If you're within 10 years of retirement and wondering whether your current allocation still makes sense, let's talk. Email us at info@fivepinewealth.com or call 877.333.1015 to schedule a conversation. Frequently Asked Questions (FAQs) Q: What is the rule of thumb for asset allocation by age? A: Traditional rules like "subtract your age from 100" are oversimplified. Your allocation should be based on your guaranteed income sources, spending flexibility, and risk tolerance; not just your age. Q: Should I move my 401(k) to bonds before retirement? A: Not entirely. You still need growth to outpace inflation. Gradually shift toward a balanced allocation (60-80% stocks, depending on your situation) and keep 1-2 years of expenses in stable investments. Q: What's the difference between stocks and bonds in a retirement portfolio?  A: Stocks provide growth potential to keep pace with inflation but come with volatility. Bonds offer stability and income but typically don't grow as much.